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Heartbeat Logo April, 2007,  In this issue:
Diversity Survey Results
A Weekend in the Woods
Meet Natasha Taylor
Holly Duffin, Artist (WAHM)
Do Your Work
Helping Parents Deal with the Loss of a Child
Finding your Circle
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Dear Woman Within graduate: 

Thank you to the fifty women who responded to the Diversity Survey featured in a recent Heartbeat. Both similarities and differences appeared in the results. The majority of the respondents were from the Midwest and indicated that they are very or somewhat similar to other women in their community except in age. Interestingly, nearly half of the respondents were older than age 50 and 78% were at least age 41. The survey respondents ranged from thirteen women who were initiated ten or more years ago to eleven women who did their weekend within the past 3 years. The overwhelming majority indicated they recommend the Woman Within Training Weekend (WWTW).

In regards to opinions on ways to increase diversity within Woman Within, the main suggestion that was voiced over and over was the need for scholarships or a lower cost to the WWTW and other trainings. A few women did not notice differences, some said each woman needs to do her own inner work, others indicated more marketing and appearances in specific communities, and several said they honestly didn’t know. Several women raised the awareness that diversity is not only about race but exists in sexual orientation, physical abilities, religion and class.

Over half of the respondents indicated that they are not involved in their community because they are disconnected from the group. Perhaps that “disconnect” comes partially from feeling different, often less than, others. Through awareness of the differences we hope to dissolve the barriers and and connect more closely with those around us.

You are encouraged to review the survey results on the survey pages. Please write us at Heartbeat to share your conclusions about the survey.

Mary Walilko and Louise Lovdahl   click here for all the survey results.


A Weekend in the Woods by Louise Lovdahl

On a cool and cloudy Friday evening in October of 1995 Gloria Chatman was dropped off at the House in the Wood camp near Delevan, Wisconsin. This was Gloria's second trip to House in the Wood as a few months earlier she had served as an advisor for an initiation weekend for African American junior high age girls. But this trip was different in many ways.

As Gloria surveyed the group on Friday evening, she found not even one woman who looked like her. She was the only woman of color. While most women there may have been afraid of the unknown, Gloria had fears for her physical safety.    click here to read full article

Natasha Taylor: by Mary Walilko

 Natasha's interview article has been rescheduled for the May Heartbeat.


Holly Duffin, Artist, WAHM (Work at Home Mom)


My work is about my childhood. As a child I could be found creating little masterpieces with found objects. I was constantly drawing, doodling, designing, and making little creatures out of rocks, fabric, found objects, etc. I couldn't keep my hands out of creating. Little did I know that I would still be doing this at age 36.

click here to read full article
 

Do Your Work  by Louise Lovdahl

Have you ever been told “Do your work” around the isms? What does that mean?

As a white person it’s difficult for me to understand what women of color need in order to feel safe. However I do know about sexism and what men need to do so that I feel safe. I have come to believe that whenever one learns about one ism, the awareness around other isms increases.

I asked my friend, Erva Baden, who teaches classes on women’s history and feminine spirituality to share some of her thoughts about the meaning of “Do Your Own Work” in regards to sexism.     click here to read the full article

Helping Parents Deal with the Loss of a Child by Dianne Geiser

When a parent loses a child, the grief process is similar to other losses, but our reaction as a society is one of ignorance. In an effort not to cause discomfort, we avoid mentioning the child the parent has lost. This avoidance can be hurtful, because the parent may want and need to reminisce about this child. Remember the parent is hurting regardless of what you say or don't say.

Parents who lose a child, need to wrestle with acceptance of this loss. It is not the natural order of things, to bury your child. Parents are in shock and friends and family are ill prepared on how to be a support. In an effort to make the parent and ourselves feel better we can actually hurt the grieving parent.      click here to read the full article

Finding Your Circle  by Edna Wilson

My initiation weekend took place at House-in-the-Woods in Delavan, Wisconsin. I drove alone from Milwaukee, which I regretted later because it was one of the worst knuckle gripping rides I've ever had. The March blizzard only got worse the closer I got to the little island. After two hours of snow coming straight at my windshield, I really questioned my sanity. Bathed in fear and sweat, I was certain that this was only an omen of things to come during the weekend.      click here to read the full article

In Next Month's Issue . . . To be announced.
 

The heartbeat is accepting advertisements starting with the March, 2007 issue. The introductory monthly fee of $10.00 per ad per month will be given to the Women in Circle Scholarship Fund. Please contact mary.heartbeat@gmail.com for more information.

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Last Words:  
". . . a leader is a person who has an unusual degree of power to project on other people his or her shadow, or his or her light. A leader is a person who has an unusual degree of power to create the conditions under which other people must live and move and have their being -- conditions that can either be as illuminating as heaven or as shadowy as hell. A leader is a person who must take special responsibility for what's going on inside him or herself, inside his or her consciousness, lest the act of leadership create more harm than good."      (Leading From Within by Parker J. Palmer)

:: heart words
This Whore for Sale

Look at Me -
I sing and dance and smile on cue
Love me Please –
This dancing puppet shines like new
Glittered Face -
Masking a rage you will not see
Fake bright Smile -
What you want I’ll gladly be.

Liar, liar pants on fire

That “me” you see is one small slice
Of rotting fruit not all that nice
Shallow laughs distorting pain
Designer labels masking shame.

“Human life,” mimed this land’s leader
“Is a gift from our Creator.”
His empty eyes reflected mine
Callow words in stiff pantomime,

“No one
Discarded,
Disregarded
Or Put up for Sale.”

While Bush vends empty promises
Marionette for the masses
We follow in his puppet’s march
The living dead in ties and starch

To be
Discarded,
Disregarded
And Put Out for Sale.

Today I go and dance some more
Whores we are – I am that whore
Tonight I pray my soul to keep
this mask on tight that I might sleep

Rested
Ready for
One more day as
This Whore, Up for Sale.

Andrea Burleson
(1997, Delavan, WI)
I wrote this about a year ago when I was in a job I absolutely, unequivocally despised. Each day felt like selling my body & soul to the devil, not because the job itself or the people were bad but because it was the worst fit in terms of lifestyle I could have chosen. I only lasted about 9 months in the job. Took a leap of faith last May, quit – started my own consulting practice and have been doing well since.

For me, this poem represents doing anything you hate because you think you should, because it’s the “nice” thing to do . . . because you think you “must” for any reason. Playing nice when so-called “nice” is inconsistent with your own values, voice, needs.

:: upcoming events

Film: Color of Fear
Friday, April 13, 2007, 6:30pm
at the MKP Kuempel Center
1900 W. Fulton, Chicago, IL
Open to both men & women,
discussion following film. FREE.
Click here for more info

Women In Circle PJ Party
Sat, Apr 14, 2pm - Sun, Apr 15, 12 noon, House in the Wood, Lake Delavan, WI -- $50.00
Opening Circle, Dinner, Games
Singing, Dancing, Fiery Drum Circle, Yoga/Meditation, Breakfast, Closing Circle
Click here for more info

WOW/WILD Award Dinner
Sun, Apr 29, 4:30pm - 7:30pm
Athena Restaurant
Chicago, IL -- $35.00
First joint awards dinner
First annual WIC Awards
Contact Rob Johnson at
johnsrm@gmail.com, 630-561-2097 or Leslie Recht at
lrecht@defrees.com, 312-405-5215 Click here for more info

MKP Multicultural Council Annual Conference and
"Isms & Issues" Training
July 13-15, 2007
Kenosha, Wisconsin
contact Louise Lovdahl
ashiko47@sbcglobal.net
Click here for more info

"Isms & Issues"
Introduction to Multicultural Awareness, An MKPI Workshop
A day of learning, discussion, reflection, and sharing about our differences
**Sept 8 (Saturday)
New England – Contact Andy Towlen andoact@yahoo.com
Click here for more info

Woman Within Training   call: Mary Ann Armour,
573-754-3131
Brochure available on this page  or visit  www.womanwithin.org for more information.
* mid-west regions *
**May 18-20, Delavan, WI (Chicago/Milwaukee)
**June 22-24, Griswald, IA
**Sept 7-9, Delavan, WI (Chicago/Milwaukee )
**Sept 28-30, Nazareth, KY (Louisville/Cincinnati)
**Nov 2-4, Delavan, WI  (Chicago/Milwaukee)

Women Empowering Women (WEW)
**June 29 - July 1, 2007
Des Plaines, IL
Presented by Char Tosi
Contact: Christina Archer
(Sept. 1999, Delavan, WI)
630-272-6902 or Blooskyycrys@yahoo.com
Visit  www.womanwithin.org

Recommended Reading: Learning to be White: Money, Race and God in America
by Thandeka

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